Just for the weekend. This is one of the biggest obstacles to people taking time to nourish the soul, says psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo, Chicago-area author of Better Than Perfect: 7 Steps to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create aLife You Love. Can’t go to a 90-minute yoga class? Try one yoga pose instead of a 90 minute class. Can’t sit for 30 minutes of meditation? Try five deep breaths. “Personally, I love to go for a walk outside… to really nourish my soul. Ideally, I take an hour or longer, but… I take a walk around the block.” I would add to this, if you love novels but find the time commitment daunting, just commit to 15 minutes escape per day and leave it at that.
from the amazing Simone de Hoogh, specialist in neuro-atypical kids. It’s the best I’ve come across. I don’t know why this works but it does. I do it when I‘m trying to get back to sleep at night, the loo at work, ANYWHERE.
Getting up earlier has changed my life in creating some extra space.
This great article at The Muse has a good set of tips for how to boost productivity by being more morning-efficient, and simultaneously sleeping better.
5) Think of something totally different to do
Break the routine. Have take-away from somewhere else, go to a local place you’ve never been to before, call a friend. A new activity will help to take you out of the auto-pilot routine and may give you a new energy for life.
6) Stop pretending everything is OK
Surrender. Talk to your partner or closest loved one, what is one thing you think I should change? Then without judgement of yourself or them, implement it. Alternatively, resolve that you are going to have that difficult conversation next week. I did that with a senior peer this week and felt like I had lost three kilos.
BIG ONE. Recent Research found that study participants who forgave were later able to jump higher, on average, than participants who didn’t forgive. “When people forgive someone, the ‘weight being lifted off their shoulders’ is a metaphor that can activate a real concept of lightness,” says University of Washington assistant professor of management, Ryan Fehr. He concludes that “forgiveness might help people retain more energy, carry less stress and even perform better at work.”
9) Talk to someone about something they love
Watch their eyes light up. This is especially easy in kids or the elderly.They will see (and share) wonder in everything. Then go away, ask yourself what lights you up like that, and plan to do it.
10) Immerse yourself in music you love
Here is a quote from the bestselling author of Soldier Dogs, Maria Goodavage, on what music does to her!
has been giving me great comfort and happiness and peace. There’s something so calming, ethereal and yet grounding about the larghetto [music with a languid tempo]. It’s like a slow, reassuring heartbeat. The true soul-nurturing to me is in the pauses, which I know sounds strange. Maybe it’s because I can’t take time to pause with this deadline.
That’s the next ten tips for a more reflective state, Rest, Reflect, Resurrect, Pt.2 is here, along with links to the books mentioned in this post.